HA HA! I was Right!!

Before reading, please understand that most of the following exchange was done with an air of humor and levity......if it was serious, I wouldn't take such pleasure in the result....

So, a couple days ago, before my hate mail rant, I was telling you about the new plan of action K and I had established to get me out of my snit filled attitude.  It's actually something I came up with, and he helped me tweak (isn"t he so helpful?).

I actually made it 2 days before it came into effect....I will now pause for a brief moment of applause.

I should be contrite....I should be reflective....I should feel just a wee bit bad.....but I don't.

Because you see......I WAS RIGHT!!!!!!  HA HA!!  Did everyone catch that???  I WAS RIGHT!!

I have been really sweet for the past few days.  Not because of the threatened spanking, but because I finally feel more at peace with myself and K.  We have acknowledged the problem, come up with a plan, and are moving forward.  Things have been really good around here.

Last night, I came home where K was waiting for me.  This doesn't happen much as he usually works later, but he got done early and I had a tennis match that went longer than anticipated.  He was waiting for me with some good tunes and a nice cold beer (I just love coming home to him).  We were rehashing our day, laughing over some of the antics of the school kids I had taught that day, and generally just enjoying our time together til the kids came home.

We went out to start the grill when he said,"Oh baby, the funniest thing happened to me today."

He went on to relate a story of how he had run into the aunt of his son's ex-girlfriend, blah, blah, blah...how they had discussed the kids, how his son is getting married next week, yada, yada, yada. 

Now let me just say, I am not really a jealous person unless it's something blatantly flirtatious, so a harmless interaction like this really doesn't bother me.

HOWEVER, if you read my blog, you know that K is EXTREMELY psychotic jealous of any interactions I have with members of the opposite sex. AND, we just had an issue with this very thing last week over which I got paddled pretty severely....lesson learned (for me atleast).

As he finished his story, I just stared at him (yep, I'm learning a few things from my HOH)

"What?" he said, "Why are you looking at me like that?"

"Really?", I said," You just stood there and had idle chit chat with some RANDOM woman?" (this is one of his favorite sayings about men I encounter).

"Well, she kinda took me by surprise."

I stared

"We were talking about the kids"

Still staring

"I didn't want to be rude."

Really???  How many times have you told me I don't have to be nice to every guy who talks to me...that's it's okay to be rude and walk away??

"Honey, she was really ugly."

So, as long as I'm only talking to ugly men, that's ok?

"No, ofcourse not. But I'm the top and I have a different set of rules."

Are you kidding me?  You're not going to hold yourself to the same set of standards?  Let me just stop here and say, at the beginning, I was really only giving him a hard time and a dose of his own medicine...but now, I was getting a bit irked.

So I came back with this gem....."So, if I just had some random conversation with an ugly man I don't really know for no real reason, you'd be perfectly fine with it?"

He stared at me...I could see the wheels turning.....wait, wait......"No, I wouldn't.  You're right.  I'm sorry"

Excuse me?  I didn't quite hear that....what?

"You're right, I'm sorry.  It just happened before I knew it and I didn't want to be rude."

Well Hallelujah and pass the marshmallows...didn't I just use that same reason last week????  I'll be darn....

"Ok, you're right, I'll try to be more reasonable in the future.  I said I was sorry, and you were right, now lets move on."

Did I let it go?  Secure in the satisfaction of my right-ness??  Did I take the high road? 

Ofcourse not....I was smug....I was self-satisfied.....I was over the top.

I basked in my glory for about ten minutes....then I got 5 hard swats and a warning to knock it off or we would be having a "meeting" later.

So, I stopped...but I'm still smiling today...just a little.